For the Love of Yourself, Please!!

I am constantly amazed at the amount of sexual predators there are out there, in this small city alone. I have come across my fair share, and I’m not even overly attractive (not to say I’m belittling myself, but I’m just not really the type of person you would think would come across such people). I often hear about girls who’ve been in situations with men, either a guy their age or a bit older, just being inappropriate and just trying to get into their pants, or someone older – who should know better – with some kind of authority over the girl. It’s no wonder I’ve lost so much respect for men, why I think every man is a jerk and an asshole until he proves otherwise. It is honestly insane, how many girls have been sexually harassed or abused!

I think it’s a problem and something needs to be done. Men need to learn the difference between what is and what isn’t appropriate and where the lines are. men should not be taking advantage of girls and we girls and women need to learn to stand up for ourselves! It may be embarrassing, but keeping in something that is so important cannot only be very damaging to your own self-image, but also doesn’t teach the person doing the harassing a lesson. Now, I don’t know if all men who do this quite realize how serious of an offence this is, and that even just saying little comments can lead to a bigger problem. I’ve learnt so much about myself these past few years, and I know now that standing up for yourself in this kind of situation is something that needs to be done. It is not something that will just go away. Ignoring it will not make it better. Whether there was physical contact or not, it is serious. I wish every woman on this planet knew her importance and that she should not feel bad or embarrassed to talk about this to someone who can do something about it. When put in this situation, you have to let the person know that it is NOT ok, you do NOT like what they are doing or saying. They have to be told that it is inappropriate. Please girls. PLEASE if you know me or not, do me this one favor - do YOURSELF this favor - that you will stand up for yourself if you are ever put in this situation.

I understand that shock and fear come into play and sometimes your brain freezes. But knowing how to “snap out of it” and knowing the boundries and telling yourself that it needs to be stopped is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. Writing this, I am shaking in disgust at these men, and I’m crying because I don’t want any woman on this earth to think they are not important enough to be heard in this kind of situation, that they are not important enough to stand up for themselves. It really truly hurts me when girls don’t think they are worth the fuss.

I sincerely apologize to those few men out there who are respectful, sweet and fantastic. Be strong and teach others to be like you! Although I have, for the most part, lost my faith in men, I realize there are some great men out there, and I’m sorry that you have to work so much harder at getting great women, because of the crap that these swines have taught women about men and how men are. But I promise you, once you get that girl, she will be the luckiest girl alive, to have found someone that treats her with respect and loves her. And she will appreciate you for it. I know when it comes to me, any man that wants to be with me is going to have to work hard and prove to me that they are a good person. I have finally learnt that I deserve to be treated with love and respect, and it is my sincere hope that I can pass this on to other girls who maybe don’t realize that about themselves yet.